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Apryl Mott reviewed Championship Martial Arts
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I have been attending adult classes here for just over a year and have nothing but great things to say about this dojo. The instructors are knowledgeable and the atmosphere is upbeat. I started classes thinking I was too out of shape but was never treated like I shouldn't be there. Shihan Jenny pushes us to work hard but also pushes us to have fun. If you want to get in shape, learn karate, and hang out with a fun group of adult students then this is the dojo for you!

Casey Joyner

My daughter has been going to Championship Martial Arts-Cary for just over a year now. It was the best decision we've made signing her up for classes here. Her confidence has really soared since beginning karate. Shihan Jenny and all of the instructors are awesome! It really feels like a family here 💜

Allyson Ishihara

My daughter’s confidence has increased significantly since joining Championship!!! Highly recommended!!!

Luisa Gomez

We just started attending Championship Martial Arts, but the experience has been great so far. My son really enjoys the classes and it is a delight to see him while in class. He is four years old and his classmates are in that age range. It is hard to believe how focused a group of little kids can be given the correct direction. I think this will really help my son focus and create some discipline at this early age.

Paige Brooks reviewed Championship Martial Arts
5
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I am so impressed by the program here and the instructors for the little ninjas class! It’s an affordable, fun way for the kids to learn respect, discipline, self-control and obedience. Christopher is an excellent teacher and has a natural ability to keep the kids interested and focused.

Jeremy Barefoot

CMA has been absolutely amazing for my son. The atmosphere and nurturing, yet challenging instructors have instilled pride, confidence, discipline, and fitness. Shihan Jenny and her team are second to none; they are phenomenal coaches, teachers, and masters of the craft-and make each session challenging and super fun at the same time! I recommend this experience to anyone from “little” to full-fledged Ninja!!

Nathan Shackles

My 12 yo son has been taking karate at CMA for almost 2 years now and I've seen tremendous growth in his attitude, confidence and maturity. He loves going to class and I love seeing him so excited to learn and refine his skills each week.

Heather Levy Hall reviewed Championship Martial Arts
5
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The team of instructors at CMA are unmatched! I haven't seen a group of educators who know more about martial arts and child development. The first day that we stepped foot in their door, I was so nervous because nobody had ever been able to reach my child before. He was always anxious and had never found an activity that he actually WANTED to participate in. He told me that he was not going to participate-only watch. We arrived and in less than 30 seconds, Shihan Jenny had him participating with the group AND he was enjoying it!
CMA has given my child such confidence. He has developed much better body control and awareness. He now tries to make up his own "forms" and teaches us every night. I cried from happiness the other day because he was so excited about going to his karate class. We have found something that he loves and has a passion for. I'm so grateful that we found this place and cannot recommend them enough!

Nikki Myles reviewed Championship Martial Arts
5
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I absolutely love this place. My son has been attending this dojo for almost a year now. All of the children are taught positive attributes such as courage, courtesy, and confidence and they all resonate with encouragement for others and respect for their parents and staff. I also attend personal training here and have been so impressed with how wonderful the whole CMA family is!

Colleen Rogan Garrett reviewed Championship Martial Arts
5
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Shihan Jenny and her team of instructors help you dig deep to bring out your personal best, no matter your age. My daughter has been taking classes for 3 years and I've been there just over a year, our balance, coordination, health and confidence have improved dramatically. Karate is a great way to stay fit, and Championship Martial Arts, Cary is the best place for it!

Carol Swink Wooten reviewed Championship Martial Arts
5
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Championship Martial Arts is amazing! My two boys, now five and seven, have been enrolled in classes since they were three and a half years old. The instructors are highly skilled and Shihan Jenny is phenomenal with the students. Classes are structured, instructors are patient, knowledgeable, and enthusiastic. We had several birthday parties at the dojo as well--and the boys loved it! My older son is taking classes almost daily and he would take multiple classes every day (he enjoys the classes that much!) Shihan Jenny has a way to motivate students to do their best and excel to their fullest potential. The integration of character traits into the karate curriculum is also impressive as the "Lesson of the Month" provides key life skills. I highly recommend Championship Martial Arts to anyone who is interested in the highest quality karate instruction available.

Kathryn Jeffcoat reviewed Championship Martial Arts
5
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I love this Dojo! The instructors are knowledgeable, patient and encouraging to all students. I feel very fortunate to be in the happy circumstance of being in the vicinity of such an excellent Karate school when I was looking for a place for my son. He absolutely loves it and I could not have asked for better. My father who studied Martial arts for over 40 years watched the instruction and students one time and gave Shihan Jenny the highest praise I have ever heard pass his lips. If you are looking for the best, look no further.

Andrew Kasab reviewed Championship Martial Arts
5
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A fantastic, supportive, and focused environment. From the instructor, Shihan Jenny, down to the younger instructors, the staff is well trained and equipped to handle all ages. A great experience in learning self defense, confidence and training for the body and mind. Reasonable costs and well worth the time in seeing the classes teach sportsmanship and a valuable skill.

Renee Lagueux reviewed Championship Martial Arts
5
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CMA is an amazing dojo. Shihan Jenny and the instructors are highly skilled and very good with kids. The students are pushed to reach their goals while having fun. It's a great environment where your child will learn respect, self discipline and confidence. I highly recommend Championship Martial Arts Cary.

Donna Greene reviewed Championship Martial Arts
5
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CMA , Can't say enough good things about CMA and Shihan Jenny and Sensei Chris for helping my son Sensei Christopher grow and develop into the awesome young man that he is at almost 18 years old now. I am so proud of his work ethic, integrity, helpfulness, respectfulness, and humbleness that I know has come from him being partly at CMA and from you working with him for nearly 8 or 9 years now. I cannot thank you both enough for your guidance and friendship as Christopher has had to deal with a lot of difficult times during these years. My hope is he will always continue to be able to call on you as friends and to continue his karate as long as he feels it's a support to him. Thank you so much.

Justin Cooper reviewed Championship Martial Arts
5
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Shihan, Sempai’s and the other instructors and staff are great. Very quickly became a part of our family. Work very well with people from all ages (kids to adults). My 6 year old started when he was 5 and I have seen a much bigger difference in self control and respect. I too (along with my wife) joined as well and love it. I’m involved in several classes. Learn all types of techniques... from karate basics, self defense, katas to bushudo; and gets more challenging to push yourself in a non pressured way unlike other other dojos I have attended in my past or witnessed... not that CMA go easy on you AT ALL but they understand thresholds and capability and build from there and find what works best for you while still learning the tools you need to get you where you need to be. great in school tourneys, good for mind, body, and soul and a very positive atmosphere. Has helped my body recover from Medicsl issues as well as focusing my mind to get out of the day to day hassle we all deal with. Great release for stress, exercise, self defense and family atmosphere

Jason Hedrick reviewed Championship Martial Arts
5
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I looked around quite a bit for a good karate studio for my son - we were looking for strength and decency, not just fighting. Most of the places I found were way more Cobra Kai than Mr. Miyagi, but one day we stopped in to the place beside our grocery store and found Championship Martial Arts. From the owner to the younger instructors, we found kind but serious, friendly but tough people that push my son in appropriate ways and require a lot from him - and he loves it. We also found a community of parents and long term students that is supportive and helpful. I wouldn't want to send my son anywhere else. I've often told people that if my kid ends up anything like the student instructors that are long term products of that program, that's okay with me.

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Is it Rude, Is it Mean, Is it Bullying?

As they say, kids will be kids. And yes, children and teens can be unkind to their peers and feelings get hurt. The problem is when these behaviors become common and target the same person repeatedly. This is when kids being kids begins to cross the line to bullying. And while bullying is a very terrible thing for anyone to endure, it is important to look at the actual behavior and determine if it really is bullying or if it is children being rude or mean.

Bullying is a term that has become more prevalent in recent years even though the actual act of bullying has been around for a very long time. Although studies have shown that the rates of bullying incidents have actually decreased, this topic has been at the forefront of everyone’s minds and in the media more often. This is largely due to increased amounts of children and teens harming themselves as a response to their experiences.

According to Stopbullying.gov “In order to be considered bullying, the behavior must be aggressive and include an imbalance of power” while being repetitive in nature. When children use their power to bully someone it could include “physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity.” If this behavior is done more than once or twice, it is considered bullying and should be addressed as so.

There are different types of bullying: verbal, social, physical, and cyber. While physical bullying happens often, verbal and social bullying are the most prevalent. These types generally happen during school hours or at school events. Cyber bullying is on the rise due to the increased use of technology by children and teens. Whereas children can go home and escape the other types of bullying, cyber bullying reaches far beyond the school yard.

Bullying is a very emotional subject, so it is important to take all accusations seriously and never minimize someone’s experience. It is vital, though, to determine if the behavior was bullying or was just a child being rude or mean. For example, a child says to another child “You’re so stupid” and this happens once, maybe twice. By definition, it is not considered bullying but yes, it is mean and can hurt the child, on the receiving end of it, emotionally.

Trudy Ludwig, author of “My Secret Bully” describes the difference in a child being rude or mean and showing bullying behaviors with easy to understand definitions. Rude is a child inadvertently saying or doing something that hurts someone else. Mean is when a child purposefully says or does something to hurt someone once (maybe twice). Bullying involves intentionally aggressive behavior, repeated over time, that involves an imbalance of power. Being familiar with these helps to give some guidance when addressing harmful behaviors and giving appropriate interventions.

Bullying can happen anywhere and to anyone. It is important to know the warning signs that a child may exhibit when they are being bullied. Also knowing that children and teens don’t always ask for help is essential to know. According to the National Bullying Prevention Center, less than half of bullying incidents were not reported because children and teens felt that they could handle it on their own, they didn’t want more problems from the bully, they were embarrassed, or they felt rejected.

It is vital for anyone working with children to be educated on the warning signs of bullying behaviors while maintaining an objective look at the actual behaviors that are exhibited in order to determine appropriate consequences. Educating parents and the community about the differences in children being rude or mean and actual bullying behaviors is essential to addressing the behaviors in the most effective way.